But the hardest one of all is the question, "Is this your first?" Now I realize that most people are just being polite or making small talk, but what is the socially acceptable answer??? If I just say, "No," then I get the follow up question, "How old are your other children?" But if I were to say, "Yes," then Im ignoring my first child. And that doesn't seem right. Bristol is such a big part of who I am now, plus I love her more than I could even begin to explain....and to deny her very existence doesn't seem right. Plus, I just cannot do it. So I opt for the answer no one really wants to hear, "No, our daughter was stillborn at 26 weeks in February." That pretty much shuts people up, but the ones who touch my heart are the ones who ask about her and then tell me they are praying for us. I work in a retail store, and there are 2 customers who always ask about me when they are in. The one lady was in the week before our 20 week ultrasound and purposefully came in the day after my appointment to see how it went. She always tells me she is praying for us and that makes me feel better.
Well, we go for our 28 week appointment next Thursday. We are having an ultrasound done then too. Im hoping if everything looks good there that I will stop worrying but Im not kidding myself....Im gonna be worried about this little boy until the day I die.
